Balancing your own power when empowering others When you have a strong sense of power and stand tall in your energy and vitality, and simultaneously want to encourage that same energy, directness, and responsiveness in others, it can be difficult not to assert that same power over others. When we do that, it
Building integrity and autonomy Setting boundaries and saying “no” especially to friends and loved ones can be difficult as it often connects with our self-narratives and assumptions about the negative consequences if we do it. We might have the deep pain from being left out, not seen, overheard or we have the fear
Asking for help and support without feeling shame Being transparent and asking for help and support can feel shameful and create thoughts and emotions that are strong enough for us not to reach out for help and support. It often connects with our self-narratives and assumptions about what will happen if we do it.
Practicing your mind has no purpose or goal When we practice quiet mind, it is a practice that will help us to connect with our quiet mind in times of somatic, emotional and cognitive pressure and imbalance. The practice is to help us regain balance and with our practice, we will have a sense
Profound personal connection creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our originality, authenticity, emotionality, and our deep inner connection with ourselves. Inner work might be the work of connecting with the deeper and true parts of ourselves. But what is it we
Care and attention to other creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our care and loving attention to other’s needs. When we dedicate ourselves to the needs of others, we often build deep personal relationships based on care, empathy, and genuine interest
Correctness and High Standards creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our correctness and high standards. When we dedicate ourselves to the correctness, discipline and pursuing high standards, we often feel great about ourselves as we are doing the right thing, the
Productivity and efficiency creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our adaptability and productivity. When we engage in our adaptability and ability to achieve, build, and create, we often feel a sense of accomplishment. We might even feel that we are productive
Optimism and Playfulness creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our optimism and playfulness. When we engage in our optimism, positivity, playfulness, and hunger for exploration and adventures, we might experience several levels of freedom. I enjoy traveling and engaging in new
Vitality and your Life Force creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our physical power and vitality. When we use our somatic energy, our power, vitality, and inhabited force, we both feel accomplished while also feeling alive. I tend to feel more
Happy New Year It is the first day of the new year, according to the Gregorian calendar, and is celebrated around the globe. But even if you are following another calendar, you probably know your traditions for the celebration of a new year to come. (Let your wishes for the New Year come
Are you a realist, or does realism kill the joy? Are there any problems or drawbacks to being realistic? If your personality belongs to the more realistic ones, then the answer would be no, but for someone, being realistic seems more negative than positive. (How can you blind blind Enneagram Type make you
Why not fake it until you make it? Why work hard when you can work smart? Why not fake it until you make it? And why not shape the truth to make others understand you better? (Understand how your blind Enneagram Type cover for a winning mindset) Most athletes know how to
Seeing things from the brigther side can help you with handling sorrow and solving complex problems, but… Being an optimist might help you live longer, stay healthier, and get out of the hospital faster. Being overly optimistic might also shorten your life, be hard on your health, and keep you in the hospital for
We might find a path of development when we understand the difference between true and false emotions. Emotions like sorrow and sadness should not be overcome but transformed, and living with us like emotions like happiness and freedom creates the foundation for a healthy life. (Read more about how your blind Enneagram Type
Disconnecting might give you some time to think, but… Disconnecting from others or the situation can be a way of preserving energy and giving yourself the time to orient yourself. (Your blind Enneagram Type can disconnect you from your smartness) You can also disconnect from yourself, and for a short period of
The power of conscious passivity When we do not take action, we have taken action. It is not possible not to act, but we can choose not to respond in a conscious and self-aware way so our actions do not seem passive-aggressive. When we are passive, we can avoid escalations of conflicts and
Have you heard about the idea of positive manipulation? Every time we communicate, we are trying to manipulate others. At its core, manipulation is the intention to make other people agree with you and then have people take action in doing or not doing something specific. It is a mechanism that can be
Do you know the difference between “power over” and “empowerment”? Expressing your dominating energy, whether done consciously or subconsciously, is an inherent part of our human nature. It is an emotional structure or pattern that lets other people know your boundaries and is an expression of your autonomy. On the positive side,
Do you sense the difference between good and bad Judgment? Judging, whether done consciously or subconsciously, is an inherent part of the human experience. It’s a mental tool or structure that has aided our survival for thousands of years. However, like any tool or structure, it can be wielded for both constructive and
Your life is a blend of the events and people you have encountered We are all being shaped by the experiences and people we meet on our path in life. Becoming a father has shaped my life, getting married the first time shaped my life and losing everything did shape my life. So
What did you have to leave behind? When we undergo personal development, we undergo a transformation, where parts of us are changing form, shape, content, meaning, impact, gestalt etc. You will typically transform your identity, mindset, values, assumptions, behaviors, and personal narratives and narratives about others. A transformation is also an action
Walking the path of intuition Normally we relate “intuition” with gut feeling or with a connection with our body or sensations. But intuition is both experienced in your body, emotions and thoughts. Intuition is about contemplation, looking within, observing neutrally, or getting in contact with. Most of us also connect it to an
Co-create the solution and the path to walk Third-generation coaching is the co-creation of a longing to initiate. The co-creation is often between the coach and the focus person, the longing is often like an awakening, urge, or spark and the initiation is often about embarking on a journey of finetuning and the development
Do you uninvited share your experience with others? When I was in my early 20ies, my mentor would like me to understand that there is a difference between a great and a genius idea. He explained that the patent of the fountain pen, where you have a small container of ink in your
What is importance and urgency to you? The Eisenhower Matrix or the Eisenhower Principle is a matrix of four domains, where activities can be Urgent or Not Urgent combined with Important or Not Important. The idea is, that activities can be categorized in Urgent – Important, Urgent – Not Important, Not Urgent – Important
Will you give up Freedom for Selfcare? I don’t know if Kindness, Honesty, Freedom, Wisdom, Generosity and Selfcare are virtues, skills, principles or capacities. But they are essential elements in a human being. If these elements are virtues, they could be considered a state built by hard and dedicated work on oneself.
What is making creating meaning in your life? I guess that my whole adult life has been about finding the formula for building a sense of meaning in life. And I want to share with you the current formula that I am working on. Building a sense of meaning in life seems to
Winning projects and lifegiving passions When you engage in a project, you will normally have a start date, a goal, some resources, a strategy, and a plan. You might also have an end date and a structure to analyze if you are on track toward your goal. The goal is often digital, meaning
When success is a personal matter Success is about succeeding in something, and you can succeed in something planned and longed for, or you can succeed without even knowing it. I travel around the world teaching leadership, teamwork, and personal growth, and mostly I know when I have succeded in my teaching or
Can we always learn from our mistakes? It is said that we can all learn from our mistakes, but what is a mistake and is it from all the mistakes we can learn? In one way I have done so many mistakes, and in another way, I have not done many mistakes.
The art of making an apology We can run so fast in our lives that we do not notice that we do or say something unintended that harms others. Or we can be so stuck in our own personality that pride prevents us from apologizing. And there can be moments when we stop
No one can create success alone We can not do everything ourselves, even if we think we can ❤. Everyone needs help, support, and someone who shows up for us. We need it because we need to understand the importance of true relationships, friendship, and families. We need to experience that state, feeling, sensation,
Every step you take brings you forward Change can be difficult, and sometimes we might wonder, “Why do all this work?”, “Why work so hard to change?” or “Is what is here not good enough?”. Sometimes change is absolutely needed, and it is so obvious that we can not avoid it. That happens
Without feedback, it is difficult to learn and grow We can not come up with other ways of learning, growing, and developing new skills as useful as taking in feedback from others. But most of us have our own shutting down mechanisms for not taking in the feedback, and we might have a
Let go of your attachments and identification Sometimes when we let go, the space for something new is created. But what does it mean to let go, and what is it we are letting go of? Sometimes we let go of the attachment to an idea, and when we do that often, we
