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Question of the week
2024
#083 – How do I empower people without asserting my power?
Balancing your own power when empowering others When you have a strong sense of power and stand tall in your energy and vitality, and simultaneously want to encourage that same energy, directness, and responsiveness in others, it can be difficult not to assert that same power over others.
#079 – How do I set healthy boundaries and say “no”
Building integrity and autonomy Setting boundaries and saying “no” especially to friends and loved ones can be difficult as it often connects with our self-narratives and assumptions about the negative consequences if we do it. We might have the deep pain from being left out, not seen, overheard
#078 – How do I ask for help and support?
Asking for help and support without feeling shame Being transparent and asking for help and support can feel shameful and create thoughts and emotions that are strong enough for us not to reach out for help and support. It often connects with our self-narratives and assumptions about what will
#065 – The Practice of the Quiet Mind
Practicing your mind has no purpose or goal When we practice quiet mind, it is a practice that will help us to connect with our quiet mind in times of somatic, emotional and cognitive pressure and imbalance. The practice is to help us regain balance and with our practice,
#063 – Finding the Meaning and Purpose in your Originality and Emotionality
Profound personal connection creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our originality, authenticity, emotionality, and our deep inner connection with ourselves. Inner work might be the work of connecting with the deeper and true parts of ourselves.
#059 – Finding the Meaning and Purpose in your Care and Attention to Others Needs
Care and attention to other creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our care and loving attention to other’s needs. When we dedicate ourselves to the needs of others, we often build deep personal relationships based on
#058 – Finding the Meaning and Purpose in your Correctness and High Standards
Correctness and High Standards creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our correctness and high standards. When we dedicate ourselves to the correctness, discipline and pursuing high standards, we often feel great about ourselves as we are
#057 – Finding the Meaning and Purpose in your Adaptability and Productivity
Productivity and efficiency creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our adaptability and productivity. When we engage in our adaptability and ability to achieve, build, and create, we often feel a sense of accomplishment. We might even
#056 – Finding the Meaning and Purpose in your Optimism and Playfulness
Optimism and Playfulness creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our optimism and playfulness. When we engage in our optimism, positivity, playfulness, and hunger for exploration and adventures, we might experience several levels of freedom. I enjoy
#055 – Finding the Meaning and Purpose in your Physical Power and Vitality
Vitality and your Life Force creates Meaning and Purpose We find meaning and purpose in different ways, and one of the ways is our physical power and vitality. When we use our somatic energy, our power, vitality, and inhabited force, we both feel accomplished while also feeling alive.
#049 – Happy New Year – Finding the Meaning and Purpose Not in Your Future but in Your Past
Happy New Year It is the first day of the new year, according to the Gregorian calendar, and is celebrated around the globe. But even if you are following another calendar, you probably know your traditions for the celebration of a new year to come. (Let your wishes
Question of the week
2023
#048 – Are you aware of your focus on what might go wrong?
Are you a realist, or does realism kill the joy? Are there any problems or drawbacks to being realistic? If your personality belongs to the more realistic ones, then the answer would be no, but for someone, being realistic seems more negative than positive. (How can you blind
#047 – Are you aware of your pragmatic shaping of the truth?
Why not fake it until you make it? Why work hard when you can work smart? Why not fake it until you make it? And why not shape the truth to make others understand you better? (Understand how your blind Enneagram Type cover for a winning mindset)
#046 – Are you aware of your overly optimistic perspectives?
Seeing things from the brigther side can help you with handling sorrow and solving complex problems, but… Being an optimist might help you live longer, stay healthier, and get out of the hospital faster. Being overly optimistic might also shorten your life, be hard on your health, and keep
#045 – Are you aware of your attachment to your sad emotions?
We might find a path of development when we understand the difference between true and false emotions. Emotions like sorrow and sadness should not be overcome but transformed, and living with us like emotions like happiness and freedom creates the foundation for a healthy life. (Read more about
#044 – Are you aware of your emotional disconnect with other people?
Disconnecting might give you some time to think, but… Disconnecting from others or the situation can be a way of preserving energy and giving yourself the time to orient yourself. (Your blind Enneagram Type can disconnect you from your smartness) You can also disconnect from yourself, and
#043 – Are you aware of your passive aggressiveness?
The power of conscious passivity When we do not take action, we have taken action. It is not possible not to act, but we can choose not to respond in a conscious and self-aware way so our actions do not seem passive-aggressive. When we are passive, we can
#042 – Are you aware of your manipulation of other people?
Have you heard about the idea of positive manipulation? Every time we communicate, we are trying to manipulate others. At its core, manipulation is the intention to make other people agree with you and then have people take action in doing or not doing something specific. It is
#041 – Are you aware of your dominating energy?
Do you know the difference between “power over” and “empowerment”? Expressing your dominating energy, whether done consciously or subconsciously, is an inherent part of our human nature. It is an emotional structure or pattern that lets other people know your boundaries and is an expression of your autonomy.
#040 – Are you aware of your judgment of other people?
Do you sense the difference between good and bad Judgment? Judging, whether done consciously or subconsciously, is an inherent part of the human experience. It’s a mental tool or structure that has aided our survival for thousands of years. However, like any tool or structure, it can be
#039 – Who or what has in a positive way shaped you into who you are today?
Your life is a blend of the events and people you have encountered We are all being shaped by the experiences and people we meet on our path in life. Becoming a father has shaped my life, getting married the first time shaped my life and losing everything did
#038 – Transformations, going from something to something
What did you have to leave behind? When we undergo personal development, we undergo a transformation, where parts of us are changing form, shape, content, meaning, impact, gestalt etc. You will typically transform your identity, mindset, values, assumptions, behaviors, and personal narratives and narratives about others. A
#037 – Do you connect with your somatic, emotional and rational intuition?
Walking the path of intuition Normally we relate “intuition” with gut feeling or with a connection with our body or sensations. But intuition is both experienced in your body, emotions and thoughts. Intuition is about contemplation, looking within, observing neutrally, or getting in contact with. Most of us
#036 – Have you heard about third-generation coaching?
Co-create the solution and the path to walk Third-generation coaching is the co-creation of a longing to initiate. The co-creation is often between the coach and the focus person, the longing is often like an awakening, urge, or spark and the initiation is often about embarking on a journey
#035 – Do you know the difference between a great and a genius idea?
Do you uninvited share your experience with others? When I was in my early 20ies, my mentor would like me to understand that there is a difference between a great and a genius idea. He explained that the patent of the fountain pen, where you have a small
#034 – Do you know why the matrix of doing what is important and what is urgent is not working?
What is importance and urgency to you? The Eisenhower Matrix or the Eisenhower Principle is a matrix of four domains, where activities can be Urgent or Not Urgent combined with Important or Not Important. The idea is, that activities can be categorized in Urgent – Important, Urgent – Not
#029 – What is most important to you? Kindness or Honesty? Freedom or Wisdom? Generosity or Selfcare?
Will you give up Freedom for Selfcare? I don’t know if Kindness, Honesty, Freedom, Wisdom, Generosity and Selfcare are virtues, skills, principles or capacities. But they are essential elements in a human being. If these elements are virtues, they could be considered a state built by hard and
#028 – Do you know the formula for building a sense of meaning in life?
What is making creating meaning in your life? I guess that my whole adult life has been about finding the formula for building a sense of meaning in life. And I want to share with you the current formula that I am working on. Building a sense of
#027 – Are you aware of the differences between projects and passion?
Winning projects and lifegiving passions When you engage in a project, you will normally have a start date, a goal, some resources, a strategy, and a plan. You might also have an end date and a structure to analyze if you are on track toward your goal. The
#026 – What is success to you?
When success is a personal matter Success is about succeeding in something, and you can succeed in something planned and longed for, or you can succeed without even knowing it. I travel around the world teaching leadership, teamwork, and personal growth, and mostly I know when I have
#025 – How do you learn from your mistakes?
Can we always learn from our mistakes? It is said that we can all learn from our mistakes, but what is a mistake and is it from all the mistakes we can learn? In one way I have done so many mistakes, and in another way, I have
#024 – Who could need an apology from you?
The art of making an apology We can run so fast in our lives that we do not notice that we do or say something unintended that harms others. Or we can be so stuck in our own personality that pride prevents us from apologizing. And there can
