We might find a path of development when we understand the difference between true and false emotions. Emotions like sorrow and sadness should not be overcome but transformed, and living with us like emotions like happiness and freedom creates the foundation for a healthy life. We also have to understand the difference between
Disconnecting might give you some time to think, but… Disconnecting from others or the situation can be a way of preserving energy and giving yourself the time to orient yourself. You can also disconnect from yourself, and for a short period of time, that can be useful, too. But disconnecting from others
The power of conscious passivity When we do not take action, we have taken action. It is not possible not to act, but we can choose not to respond in a conscious and self-aware way so our actions do not seem passive-aggressive. When we are passive, we can avoid escalations of conflicts and
Discover the magnetism of the Temple of Karnak, a sublime embodiment of ancient Egyptian spirituality, cosmology, and architectural brilliance. The Enigmatic Temple Complex I have visited the Temple of Karnak twice, even if I feel like I have been there several times over several centuries. It is a place where I feel at home, and
Have you heard about the idea of positive manipulation? Every time we communicate, we are trying to manipulate others. At its core, manipulation is the intention to make other people agree with you and then have people take action in doing or not doing something specific. It is a mechanism that can be
Do you know the difference between “power over” and “empowerment”? Expressing your dominating energy, whether done consciously or subconsciously, is an inherent part of our human nature. It is an emotional structure or pattern that lets other people know your boundaries and is an expression of your autonomy. On the positive side,
The list of tools for leaders is long, and you can attend programs where you will expand your skills in building trust and emotionally safe cultures, avoiding or handling conflicts, communicating and feedback, navigating change and complexity, handling pressure and stress, empowering and building talents and taking care of innovation and entrepreneurship. But where to
Unlock the secret to team performance with our insight on non-linear team development and why individuals and teams collectively develop by jumps. Better Team Performance: Understanding Non-linear Team Development Team growth often adopts a non-linear pattern, marked by unexpected leaps and shifts rather than a predictable, constant incline. When we as leaders understand and benefit
Do you sense the difference between good and bad Judgment? Judging, whether done consciously or subconsciously, is an inherent part of the human experience. It’s a mental tool or structure that has aided our survival for thousands of years. However, like any tool or structure, it can be wielded for both constructive and
Your life is a blend of the events and people you have encountered We are all being shaped by the experiences and people we meet on our path in life. Becoming a father has shaped my life, getting married the first time shaped my life and losing everything did shape my life. So
What did you have to leave behind? When we undergo personal development, we undergo a transformation, where parts of us are changing form, shape, content, meaning, impact, gestalt etc. You will typically transform your identity, mindset, values, assumptions, behaviors, and personal narratives and narratives about others. A transformation is also an action
Walking the path of intuition Normally we relate “intuition” with gut feeling or with a connection with our body or sensations. But intuition is both experienced in your body, emotions and thoughts. Intuition is about contemplation, looking within, observing neutrally or getting in contact with. Most of us also connect it to an
Co-create the solution and the path to walk Third-generation coaching is the co-creation of a longing to initiate. The co-creation is often between the coach and the focus person, the longing is often like an awakening, urge, or spark and the initiation is often about embarking on a journey of finetuning and the development
Do you uninvited share your experience with others? When I was in my early 20ies, my mentor would like me to understand that there is a difference between a great and a genius idea. He explained that the patent of the fountain pen, where you have a small container of ink in your
What is importance and urgency to you? The Eisenhower Matrix or the Eisenhower Principle is a matrix of four domains, where activities can be Urgent or Not Urgent combined with Important or Not Important. The idea is, that activities can be categorized in Urgent – Important, Urgent – Not Important, Not Urgent – Important
#029 – What is most important to you? Kindness or Honesty? Freedom or Wisdom? Generosity or Selfcare?
Will you give up Freedom for Selfcare? I don’t know if Kindness, Honesty, Freedom, Wisdom, Generosity and Selfcare are virtues, skills, principles or capacities. But they are essential elements in a human being. If these elements are virtues, they could be considered a state built by hard and dedicated work on oneself.
What is making creating meaning in your life? I guess that my whole adult life has been about finding the formula for building a sense of meaning in life. And I want to share with you the current formula that I am working on. Building a sense of meaning in life seems to
Winning projects and lifegiving passions When you engage in a project, you will normally have a start date, a goal, some resources, a strategy, and a plan. You might also have an end date and a structure to analyze if you are on track toward your goal. The goal is often digital, meaning
When success is a personal matter Success is about succeeding in something, and you can succeed in something planned and longed for, or you can succeed without even knowing it. I travel around the world teaching leadership, teamwork, and personal growth, and mostly I know when I have succeded in my teaching or
Can we always learn from our mistakes? It is said that we can all learn from our mistakes, but what is a mistake and is it from all the mistakes we can learn? In one way I have done so many mistakes, and in another way, I have not done many mistakes.
The art of making an apology We can run so fast in our lives that we do not notice that we do or say something unintended that harms others. Or we can be so stuck in our own personality that pride prevents us from apologizing. And there can be moments when we stop
No one can create success alone We can not do everything ourselves, even if we think we can ❤. Everyone needs help, support, and someone who shows up for us. We need it because we need to understand the importance of true relationships, friendship, and families. We need to experience that state, feeling, sensation,
The blindness neglects part of me, part of my type. So if I work on my blindness in my blind type, I will actually create openings in my primary type because my blind type has negative assumptions that are holding my primary type down or back. Your blind type would be qualities that you do
Every step you take brings you forward Change can be difficult, and sometimes we might wonder, “Why do all this work?”, “Why work so hard to change?” or “Is what is here not good enough?”. Sometimes change is absolutely needed, and it is so obvious that we can not avoid it. That happens
The Enneagram is about accepting your blind spots. Actually seeing what is preventing you from a real life. For me it’s like taking my type and putting it aside a little bit. And see how is life like when my type is not running the show all the time. But I have to accept part
Without feedback, it is difficult to learn and grow We can not come up with other ways of learning, growing, and developing new skills as useful as taking in feedback from others. But most of us have our own shutting down mechanisms for not taking in the feedback, and we might have a
Let go of your attachments and identification Sometimes when we let go, the space for something new is created. But what does it mean to let go, and what is it we are letting go of? Sometimes we let go of the attachment to an idea, and when we do that often, we
Do we change the type in the Enneagram, or do we just grow more self-awareness and understand that we mistakenly saw ourselves in the wrong type? This article is about how I though that Enneagram Type 5 was where I belonged in the Enneagram, but the Don Riso Challenge changed my mind. What is the
Every type in Enneagram is represented in what is called the three centers. And you can master or balance all three centers depending on what type you relate to the most. In this article, I will write about the somatic or body-center of Enneagram Type 3. The three centers of the Enneagram If you have
The book “The enneagram and why your blind type matters” have now been out in bookstores and online shops for three months. Several readers are sending me questions about the blind Enneagram type and until now, I have received most questions about the difference between a blind Enneagram spot / shadows and blind Enneagram type.
It is said that the student will not find the teacher, but the teacher will appear or find the student when the student is ready. For me, I have both been looking for teachers, and teachers have also entered my life exactly when I needed specific teaching. I am writing this both as a Enneagram
Are you in a personal relationship? Do you ever feel like there’s something blind to you – or your partner – preventing the connection from going deeper? If so, then it might be time to take a look at your relationship blind spots and how they are impacting your personal relationships. Blind spots within relationships
Combining the original teaching of the Enneagram with modern psychology creates an Enneagram Life Theme. Your Enneagram Life Theme is a psychological pattern you have brought with you in all your professional and personal relationships. Understanding those patterns you will build new skills to create and maintain healthy relationships. This is the third video in
Feedback and experiences from more than 440 students are now included in the training program. Understanding your blind Enneagram type can become a new path to building new skills using the Enneagram. Video about how to find your blind Enneagram type This is the second video in my mini-series about the new workshop based on
Understanding your blind Enneagram type will bring you a deeper understanding of people around you who is having your blind type as their primary type. The series of three Enneagram videos will guide you to a deeper understanding of the power of your blind Enneagram type. Enneagram video explaining the power of your blind type
Are you looking for books to get a deeper understanding of the Enneagram, or have you already done some exploration about the Enneagram and want to stay updated about the new book titles about the Enneagram? Then this article will help you find your way among some of the best sellers, classics “must-reads” and the
I strongly believe that the next generation should be empowered and supported in order to make a positive impact on society. I am passionate about sharing my knowledge and experience with the younger generations who will soon be leading and guiding us. But how is that done without becoming blind to my own ideas? Introduction
Watch this video about the origin of the teachings for Gurdjieff and Oscar and thereby also the origin of the teaching most Enneagram enthusiasts have received. This video is part of a year long program called “Conversation with my teacher”, where I ask Russ Hudson to explain topics not so commonly known by Enneagram students.
When using the Enneagram in leadership training, we often talk about leadership blind spots and Enneagram blind spots for the types. But is that the same as Enneagram blind type, and if not, what is the difference? Leadership blind spots are certain areas of your leadership personality, where you are unaware of your appearance